The Master List of First Date Do’s & Don’ts

First Date Tips

Finding a love match is difficult enough without having to worry about making a mistake on your first date. That’s why we’ve got you covered with these simple do’s and don’ts. Our tips will help you breeze through your first date jitters and leave a great lasting impression.

DON’TS

  • Don’t monopolize the entire conversation. This an easy “don’t” to fall victim to, especially if you are nervous. Be aware enough of the conversation flow to know when things are getting unbalanced. If you feel like you’re monopolizing the conversation, ask your date some questions to get them to open up.
  • Don’t say negative things about your past relationships. Everyone has a past, and at some point it may be need to come up. However, the first date is definitely not the time for it, especially if it’s bad. The last impression you want to leave on your first date is that you are negative and have a lot of baggage.
  • Don’t get too amorous on a first date. First dates are for getting to know each other. Sex can complicate things before you’ve even had a chance to discover if you actually even like the person. At the very least give yourself a few dates to give yourself a real chance.
  • Don’t point out your flaws. You may feel like you want everything on the table, but the real beauty of a developing relationship is in the discovery of each other – flaws and all. If you spend your time pointing them out, you’re really just demonstrating a lack of confidence, which is a huge turnoff for anyone.

DO’S

  • Always be yourself. It may be tempting to distort the perception of yourself to avoid rejection, but in the end you’re only doing yourself a grave disservice. It’s way better to be transparent and open about who you are. If they like you, awesome – if not, it clears the road for you to find the person who will.
  • When in doubt, smile! Nothing’s more attractive than a confident and happy person. A smile is the best way to exude your confidence. It also makes you much more comfortable and eases the comfort level of your date.
  • Actually listen when your date is speaking to you. It’s easy to lose focus when you’re nervous on a first date. However, being aloof is not going to win you any brownie points.
  • Ask questions to get to know your date, but don’t do the thirty questions drill. Questions are an easy way to start the conversation, but you don’t want it to get out of hand either. Have a handful of questions ready that will help spark deeper conversation and then let the discussion take its course from there.
  • Be polite and say thank you if your date does something for you. Gratitude and respect go a long way. Even if the date doesn’t go as you hoped, there’s no excuse for bad manners.
  • Keep an open mind towards new experiences. You know the saying, “you can’t judge a book by its cover.” This definitely applies to dating. If most things seem great with a person, at least give them a few more dates to get to know them better.
  • Have fun, and really enjoy your time together! Dating can be a lot of fun if you let it be. Getting out, meeting new people and enjoying new experience help create a rich and rewarding life experience. Don’t let the pressure of trying to find someone get in the way of just enjoying being out with someone else.

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