Signs You’re Having An Emotional Affair

Signs You're Having an Emotional Affair | @RomanceWire

Cheating isn’t as black and white as it may seem to be. Yes, the act of sex is considered to be unfaithful, but what happens when there’s no sexual activity, but rather a strong emotional connection instead? To many, this type of affair is more dangerous and harmful than just a casual sexual mishap. If we’re being honest, it’s easy to see why. Relationships are built on trust, and while having a casual one-night stand with someone else certainly breaks the faith, developing an ongoing relationship with someone else can destroy it completely.

The question that’s on any would-be cheater’s mind is…

“What actually constitutes an emotional affair?”

Emotions are a tricky subject. If only it were as simple as the obvious sexual affair. The problem lies in how much emotional investment a person has with the other individual. For instance, in a friendship it’s natural to want the best for the other person’s well-being. You are often a participant in their major life events. You may even be that person’s main support system. Nothing is wrong with this.

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Issues of infidelity arise when you start to go further than this. When you become more interested in this person’s well-being than your partners. When you put your friend’s life events continually above your partners. When your friend becomes YOUR main support system. Then, you’ve crossed the line into the affair zone. It’s really a question of where your priorities lie. If at any point your friendship becomes a higher priority than your relationship, you’re reaching a critical turning point that you may not be able to come back from.

This seems simple enough, but our minds are terribly clever, and it’s easy to convince ourselves that what we are doing is in fact completely within the limits of friendship. Just because you may not be physically spending more time with your friend, that doesn’t mean you’re not more emotionally invested with this person than your current relationship. It’s easy to fall into the trap that it must not be more because you hardly see them or in some cases hardly talk with them.

If in doubt, keep this basic tenet about emotional affairs in mind.

An emotional affair is any situation where you are depending on a person of the opposite sex for emotional support MORE than you are depending on your current partner for that same support.

If you find yourself in that situation, it’s definitely time to reevaluate your priorities and your current relationships. Take a break and figure out what’s best for you before continuing in a direction you may not necessarily want to go.

Emotional affairs are tricky to catch and fully understand. What would YOU consider to be an emotional affair? Do you think a relationship can still work if one partner is cheating on the other emotionally? Share your thoughts below!

Jennifer Good

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